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CT Swingers Club, Stay and play
We are only open on event nights

Please check each individual event for specific hours. You can find this information in the members area after you login to your account.

  • Most events start at 9:00pm and end at 2:00am but you should check the information listed for each event.


  • Although we are extremely welcoming and friendly, we are an upscale swingers social club. Please dress to impress for the benefit of the entire club. In general, it's sexy for the ladies and classy for the gentlemen.

  • Your sexiest best outfits are welcomed. Short tight dress, lingerie, etc. However; we leave it up to you to wear what you are comfotable wearing. You will always feel comfortable here no matter how much or how little you decide to wear.

    Because we understand your sexiest outfit may not be the outfit you want to leave the house in, you may arrive in your comfotable clothing and change in our ladies bathroom.

  • Classy means upscale club wear. The following is not allowed: T-shirts, Worn or torn jeans, Hats, Tank Tops, Sandals, Due Rags, Jerseys, Sneakers.


Membership is required for everyone entering Stay and Play Swingers Club

Privileges of membership will get you into the most exclusive & private on-premise alternative lifestyle club in CT, plus access to all the hottest parties with young, sexy & friendly swingers in CT.

Annual Membership

  • Couples — $69
  • Single Women — $25
  • Single Men — $99 (read the Single Gents Guide first)

Once you become a member, you pay only the nightly door donation. Nightly door donation is all-inclusive. There are no hidden fees after entering.

Door Donation

  • Door donation suggestions to cover event costs are posted with each event listed on the events page.
  • The events page is only accessible to members in the members section of this website.
  • The calendar page is merely a preview of events.
What to Expect
  • Never been to a lifestyle club?

    Most people have the wrong idea of what a swing club is. Many think that it’s just one big orgy and you check your clothes at the door and then dive right in, doing anything you want with whomever you like. At Stay and Play Swingers Club this is completely not the case! More than anything else, Stay and Play Swingers Club is a social club where you’ll meet and form friendships with some of the nicest people you’ve ever met. In some cases, you’ll form bonds that will last a lifetime.

  • Many of us have heard of “swinging”. Okay... some of you may even need to strike from your mind the visual of the 70’s swinger. You know the one…the post-dinner party, long-side-burned hubby who languidly fondles his neighbor’s wife upon the shag carpeting of his suburban, living room floor; all the while with the sound of his wife’s giggles erupting from the bedroom down the hall. For many swingers today, the “lifestyle” is social… and it may or may not include a partner “swap”. Today’s swinger is as evolved as today’s video games. A long way from the video game “Pong”.

  • Swinging, in a mainstream sense, has become something of a social-sexual phenomenon in recent years. People from all walks of life are attracted to the “’style”, with the highest influx being 30-40 something, married, middle to upper class, professionals hitting the scene for the first time. In a society that promotes sexuality, secure couples and singles have been able to develop a sense of sexual maturity. Good communication and honesty about “what turns you on” has led to a point where exploration has become a popular pastime.

  • When you walk into a swing club for the very first time, you and/or your partner are probably very nervous. You don’t know anyone there and you might feel like everyone is watching you. That’s a good sign! That means you’re normal. That’s exactly how everyone feels their first time.

  • You might expect a lot when you first come to a club and that’s probably the biggest cause of anxiety for first time visitors. The best way to approach the evening is with only one single expectation, and that is to have a fun time together. For your first visit to Stay and Play Swingers Club, plan on having a nice dinner and enjoying the sexually-charged dance floor. This way you’ll both be completely comfortable.

    Then one (or a few) of the following things will definitely happen...

  1. At the end of the night after mingling and dancing in such a sexually charged environment, you will both have the best mind-blowing orgasms during your love-making that you’ve had in years, probably recharging your sex life and supercharging your relationship and your marriage.

  2. While on the crowded dance floor during one of the slow songs, you’re dancing together and an attractive couple is dancing beside you and her clothes are coming off and you find her body rubbing against yours on the dance floor. You both respond by touching and caressing them back. Then after the song, you disappear into the crowd enjoying the excitement of the nameless pleasure of this slight sexy anonymous encounter.

  3. You are both so turned on by the evening that you go into one of our many cozy, private rooms, lock the door behind you, dim the chandelier, and seeing each other in the mirrors that surround you on all four walls, you enjoy great sex together by being in a different place and knowing that right on the other side of the wall, another couple (or threesome, foursome or more some) is doing the same. In fact you can even hear their sexy sounds through the walls which multiplies your excitement.

  4. You both know that you want to see more, but you’re not sure about how much you want to participate. So, wrapped in your little security blanket towels you venture into the main back rooms to the “Luvnasium” party complex covering several entire rooms and naked bodies . . . lots of them. You don’t get on the mattress, but instead you decide to observe from the window looking in, close enough to easily view all the exciting activities in the room down next to you, yet far enough away to accommodate your comfort zone. You feel like you’re part of the activities though not needing to participate in them. It’s like you’re sitting in an adult theater watching the most erotic orgy you’ve ever seen, except this time it isn’t a movie… The action is real and live!

  5. You see the couple you were slow dancing beside on the dance floor. There is room next to them so you spread your beach towels out on the mattress beside them and lay down. You begin kissing and playing with your mate, when after a little while the pretty girl of the couple beside you gently touches your arm to extend an invitation to touch them back. You respond to her touch not really knowing yet how much touching or caressing will take place, but knowing full well that either couple can say no at any time and set any limits they desire. Maybe the ladies only touch each other while the men each pleasure their own wives. Maybe the men are massaging both the ladies’ entire bodies or maybe the ladies are stroking the other man while having sex with her husband. Who knows what might happen this special magical night, it’s all up to you and those involved with you. Maybe she might enjoy giving you oral while her husband services her from behind, you’ll be sure to see plenty of that going on here. And maybe you’ll engage in full partner sharing with a complete exchange of partners … It’s entirely up to you and those involved, this is your night, you set your own limits.

  • Become familiar with our rules & suggestions so that you can be sure to have the best possible time. This approach will nearly gurantee that you will have the greatest night of your life.

    At the end of the night, maybe you’ll exchange phone numbers with this other couple or maybe you’ll just enjoy seeing them at “Your” club once in a while… Remember, it’s all up to you.

  • A Special Note To Single Guys

    We appreciate single gentlemen and realize that you play an important role in the swinging lifestyle so a small number of select single males are permitted. “Select” means that you must be clean, polite, well dressed and well mannered. If you’re not all of these things then Stay and Play Swingers Club is not for you.

club rules
  1. The Golden Rule: NO means NO

    Anyone may say “NO” for any reason at any time even if you are in the middle of a swinging encounter and have changed your mind and want to stop it right there! If you are in a situation that makes you uncomfortable, just say “No”. Do not jeopardize your happiness and satisfaction with this lifestyle, or that of your partner, by doing something against your will just because you are afraid to say no. The friendliest way is to say, “Oh, no thank you, but thanks for asking”. Be honest initially, and you will avoid any misunderstandings. Don’t forget that people’s attitudes change and who knows? Maybe sometime in the future you may meet again with a different opinion.

  2. Always Treat One Another With Respect

    After all, this is a party!!!! Besides, you don’t want to be rude or judgmental, because you wouldn’t want it to happen to you. If a single gentleman talks to you and you are interested in swinging with couples only, that doesn’t mean you can’t be nice to him. He’s a person just like you! Just politely let him know.

  3. Accept Rejection When It Happens

    If you are rejected (and it happens to everyone, including women), Do NOT take personal offense. Rejection is a very personal thing, and it’s almost as hard to reject as it is to be rejected. Honesty with each other is crucial. Who knows? You could end up with a great friendship if you handle the situation right.

  4. Deal With Jealousy Head On

    It is a normal reaction. Remember that this is strictly a physical & recreational pleasure, not an emotional one. Discover what triggers jealousy in your relationship and work it out together. It may mean modifying your activities, but your relationship together is not worth jeopardizing over swinging.

  5. Always Let Your Steady Partner Know S/he Is Number One

    Arrive together, take time to caress them, touch base often, it makes one feel secure. And always leave together.

  6. Be Kind, Thoughtful & Sensitive

    Use your common sense and good judgment when you are involved in a swinging situation. Swingers, couples & single guys are people and have feelings too!!!

  7. Communicate With Each Other Openly

    Honor any and all prior understandings & rules you have made between each other, and be sure to COMMUNICATE with each other openly and honestly so there are no misunderstandings about your rules.

  8. Respect The Guidelines You Set

    Respect the guidelines you set as a couple and communicate them to prospective partners. Open, honest communication is imperative to forming relationships! And please don’t forget to respect the guidelines of others. Don’t try to “talk them into” changing the rules because you don’t happen to agree with them!

  9. Pay Attention To Body Language

    There is more to interaction than words. Consider the body language of the person you are talking with and it will tell you more than the conversation you are having! Be sensitive to the person and you will know what makes them uncomfortable or happy & excited.

  10. Demand Absolute Discretion

    And be worthy of the same. Discretion is paramount in this lifestyle! Privacy is imperative!!! Never, ever discuss details inappropriately. Everything you do, everything you see, MUST remain private. Stay and Play Swingers Club has a saying, “Everything you see here, Everything you hear here, must remain here when you leave here”. There are no cameras allowed at our events

  • Give us a call ( 860-400-2221) if you have any further questions or concerns that might need to be addressed.

  1. What is Stay and Play Swingers Club?

    Stay and Play Swingers Club is the ideal swingers party. Our unique events are specifically for the swingers lifestyle. We are geared towards newbie swingers with a more laid back casual setting. One reason our events are unique is because we move around. We are not a hotel party. We always host events at private locations because we value your privacy. We do offer the amenities listed at each event. One of the most appreciated amenity is the movie theater with 10' screen. You can relax in the lounge area and watch the visual stimulation in the theater. Another reason we are unique is because our swingers parties are invite-only. Once you become a member, you will begin to receive invites to our events. Our goal is to create the ideal event where nearly everyone finds exactly what they are looking for. As a result, it's important that you completely fill out your application so that we can use that information to put together the ideal swingers event. No more going to an event and hoping there will be someone there for you. For example, if we see that a lot of couples are looking for a mmf threesome, then we will invite a few single gents to that event. You just tell us what you want and we organize the ideal swingers event.

  2. Where is Stay and Play Swingers Club?

    Stay and Play Swingers Club is currently a moving swingers production organization. We produce classy erotic events in various locations throughout CT. The calendar page will list the city/town where each event will take place. The actual address for each event is available on our events page which is only accessible to our members. Do you want to become a member? Please fill out the application and we'll get back to you super quick..

  3. Is Stay and Play Swingers Club an on-premise club?

    Yes, Stay and Play Swingers Club is an on-premise swingers club so that means you do have the opportunity to play on-site at our events.

  4. How much does it cost?

    Pricing for Memberships and Door Donations can be found in our Pricing section. Stay and Play Swingers Club is all-inclusive. That means that unlike a traditional night club, you pay for nothing inside. Mixers for your drinks (Stay and Play Swingers Club is BYOB), the dinner buffet, lockers, towels, and private rooms are included in the price. Compare this with a traditional night of dancing, drinking and other perks and you end up spending a lot less at Stay and Play Swingers Club.

  5. Do I need to become a member?

    Yes, Stay and Play Swingers Club is a private club and membership is required for everyone that enters, even if you plan on attending one night, membership is required.

  6. Do I need to be approved or have a sponsor to become a member?

    Sponsors are not necessary. There is an application form that needs to be filled out.

  7. How do you use the information we enter in the application?

    We use the information in the application form to invite members to swingers parties we host. We invite members based on age and their preferences they list in their application. Our swingers parties (in CT) always have a diverse crowd. You can of course also request an invitation to an upcoming party by using the Bookings section at the bottom of every event description in our members section (You must be a full-member to have access to the members section of this website. The calendar page is a preview and the full description for each event is in the members section).

  8. Do I need to purchase membership before coming to Stay and Play Swingers Club?

    Yes you have to fill out the application form and be approved to be eligible for an invite to a Stay and Play Swingers Club event. However; if filling out the application form isn't possible, give us a call at 860-400-2221 and we can manually create your application for you.

  9. How long does it take to fill out the application to Stay and Play Swingers Club and get approved?

    The application form only takes a couple of minutes to fill out. You can then immediately pay the application processing fee on our secure website. If you want to attend an event that is happening the same night, give us a call and let us know that you submitted your application and want to attend the swingers event and we will expedite your application. Without expediting your application, it can take up to a week to process but in many cases your application can be processed in a couple of days.

  10. Do I have to get undressed or participate in swinging?

    Absolutely not! There are other swingers clubs where you have to get naked just to enter. However; at Stay and Play Swingers Club you only do what you're comfortable doing. When you enter Stay and Play Swingers Club, it is a very casual and welcoming environment. We're also the best swingers club for newbies because of our no-pressure atmosphere and friendly members. Go at your own pace, but you might be surprised how comfortable you will feel at Stay and Play Swingers Club.

  11. What is the dress code?

    You can read detailed information about the Stay and Play Swingers Club dress code. The simplest explanation is "dress to impress".

  12. Is it possible to visit and check out the club before deciding to go in?

    No, in order to enter Stay and Play Swingers Club you must become a member and pay the membership & door donation.

  13. Just how private is Stay and Play Swingers Club?

    At Stay and Play Swingers Club we take privacy seriously. We do not share any information with any persons or organizations. Furthermore, any membership information is only available to members at the door with a valid photo ID. There are no cell phones, cameras or any type of recording devices allowed inside any of our events.

  14. Will I be able to fit in at Stay and Play Swingers Club?

    Our members form a diverse crowd that reflects every demographic and ethnicity. You can consider us the melting pot of the lifestyle that samples the population from CT and surrounding states. In general, our members consist of sexy 30-something with lots of 20-something and 40-something. Plus, to be allowed entry, you must meet our dress code requirements and be well-presented. As a result, the crowd is always looking great.

  15. How do I meet other Stay and Play Swingers Club members?

    The easiest way to meet other members is to come out to the club, become a member and have the hostess give you a tour. Never be afraid to simply say "Hi" to someone at Stay and Play Swingers Club. Another method is to join the online community at ConeccticutSwinger.org. Don't worry, it's very private and secure. Also, sign up for our newsletter, and get notified directly by email of our parties. We typically send 2 emails a month so we won't clutter your inbox. We pride ourselves in being the most welcoming swingers lifestyle club, which is in CT, ideal for newbies, so we also host special newbie nights.

  16. Will I feel out of place going as a single?

    No you will not feel out of place as long as you are friendly and respectful. Single gentlemen should read the single gents guide. Single ladies will not feel intimidated at Stay and Play Swingers Club because our members are nice & respectful.

  17. Are there other rules I should know about?

    Please read and become familiar with out complete list of rules.

Single Gents Guide

There are only a small and limited number of single gents allowed. The process for a single gent to become a member is the same as for couples. Fill out the application form and once your application to Stay and Play Swingers Club is approved you can begin getting invites to our swingers parties. Because we only allow a very limited number of single gents, the demand is high and there is likely to be a waiting period for your application. Once you fill out the application form, you can inquire about the estimated wait. You do not pay membership until you're eligible to be invited to our swingers parties. Single gents must adhere to a strict set of rules and doing so will give you access to the most exclusive swingers club in or driving distance from CT.

This is a private lifestyles swingers club, not a brothel. As a single gent or husband you play an important role in the lifestyle. Many of our members enjoy the company of a respectful gentleman(men) and that is the reason why they attend Stay and Play Swingers Club. However, never expect or assume that you will have sex. Respect is the key to everyone having a good time.

  1. THE GOLDEN RULE “NO means NO”. Anyone at anytime can say NO, even if you are in the middle of an encounter and they decide to change their minds!

  2. No touching without permission.

  3. Approach the ladies with respect. If a single lady or wife is interested in you, let them approach you. Approach the husband/boyfriend and treat him with respect. Make conversations with him first before talking to his wife/girlfriend. Be patient and polite during the evening.

  4. No harassment - This includes: Gawking at the lady members, asking for phone numbers, and/or asking for sex more than once. If you are interested in swinging with someone, let him or her know in an inviting way; if they are interested, they will respond positively. If they are not and say “No, thank you,” NEVER ask WHY.

  5. You are REQUIRED to act like a gentleman and be courteous at all times.

  6. ALCOHOL – Drunkenness will not be tolerated. This is not a bar to get drunk in.

  7. The couples lounge - Stay and Play Swingers Club has an area clearly marked for “Couples Only”. You are NEVER allowed to enter that area. Additionally, if you’re part of a couple and your lady leaves the area, you must leave with her. You may not be without her at any time.

  8. HUSBANDS are not permitted to enter the “Couples Only Lounge” without their wives. On couples night you are to be with your date at all times-no exceptions. If we see you alone you will asked to leave the premises.

  9. PRIVACY - If a door is closed DO NOT ATTEMPT TO OPEN IT! You will be immediately escorted out of club if you open a closed door. If a couple wants to be with single gents they will leave a door open.

  • If at any time you break ANY of the rules, you will be escorted out and banned from ever returning. NO REFUNDS, NO 2nd CHANCES. Remember, it is a PRIVILEGE for single gent or husbands to be invited to a Lifestyles Club, so don’t jeopardize your privilege.